Never Apologize, Never Explain is a tactic adopted by many, indeed it is one of the 48 Laws of Power. The logic goes that by apologizing and explaining your actions your power quotient is inevitably weakened. It is better to let the healing nature of time elapse to wash away the hurt. Change your behaviour if you believe you were wrong and your actions required some justification.

''If the game you want to play is '''power''', this might be good advice. If you believe that cooperation is more fruitful than power games, apologizing can be a powerful tool.''

Thus playing the PowerGame means
* There are few winners (in principle only one, as any two can be 'compared' when they get into a common situation).
* One has to win each challenge to win (thus in our society this means a looong way).
* Winning each challenge has little to do with competence or virtue, but much to do with chance (what situations arise) as nobody can look into the future to surely make the right decision every time.
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I'm sorry for apologizing.

''I'm sorry you feel that way, but I'm not sorry for apologizing.''
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An interesting perspective to mull: NonviolentCommunication suggests that apologies inherently contribute to a power differential; ''however'', you can instead note what you did, tell how you feel and why, and work out strategies for the future.  If done sincerely, this will usually work well in the place of an apology.  e.g. "When I ''now'' recall how I interrupted you, I'm feeling a bit regretful because I value keeping our dialog open.  Can we ... ?"  This is without the suggestion that someone was wrong, bad, or unworthy.  (Although it may be heard as an apology.   That's another story...)  --JasonFelice

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